I think the whole "butch" and "femme" thing is totally whack. Wasn't the whole point of "being your own person" by freely expressing your sexuality supposed to break stereotypes and boxes as opposed to repackaging our relationships with similar gender roles that we see in the majority of straight people?

It seems when being introduced in some circles of homos and non homos the first question is "are you butch or femme?" and I honestly think its very offensive. I like to wear guys clothes sometimes and prefer to take a more dominant role in the bedroom, but I love pink (the color, not vag :-p) and am very "girly" in many other stereotypical senses.

I have been told by some girls that I wasn't femme enough for them (although I think that was code for attractive) while others said that I wasn't butch so they would not give me the time of day.

I am aware that as long as humans exists, no matter what sexual orientation or mindset one may have, that we will continue to try to put everyone and everything in boxes.

My question is am I the only person that thinks "butch" and "femme" stereotypes in lesbian and straight relationships are totally bogus and should go away?

to me

but seriously, my girlfriend is awesome. She just left, and I mean I seriously could not ask or want anyone better. She insists on paying for everything, she LOVES having sex with me, she always sends me thoughtful text messages throughout the day, and when she's on her way over here she'll pick me up stuff sometimes. When she came over tonight she brought me some Hershey's candy cane kisses <3

I couldn't wait any longer and gave her the presents I bought. I got her this green and white Vans shirt, these cool tattoo ed hardy-esque skull plugs (her ears are gauged), and some little white gold hoops with a CZ on each for her cartilage piercing on her ear. Her eyes lit up and she hugged me real tight saying "you listened!". she said that because I tend to forget things A LOT.

She's picking me up tomorrow to take me to the train. I'll be on my way to seeing my mother. I really wish my mom did not hate homos so I could come out to her, but I just don't see that happening but hopefully one day she'll come around.

anyhoo I'd rather end this on a positive note. I am excited to start the new school semester. New semester, new girlfriend, new lease on life. I know I can make all of them shine and empower me if I put my mind to it.

love, Angel